ABOUT
About you
What brings you here?
If you're browsing this site, you probably already understand what a difference healthy platonic touch can make to our physical and mental health.
But...
- Maybe you're experiencing isolation.
- Or you have people around but they're just not into hugs and cuddles.
- Or they might be - but you're not sure how to bring it up.
- Or perhaps you've had difficult experiences around touch - maybe even traumatic ones - and you want to revisit platonic touch in a safe, nurturing context where you choose the pace.
My services are for people in all these situations, regardless of confidence level, race or ethnicity, gender, age, sexual orientation, size or appearance.
In each session, there is the chance to share lots of platonic touch. We can also talk about ways to set boundaries and access opportunities for touch in everyday life.
I provide a safe framework for the session, and you lead it (see below for more).
Whatever your circumstances, I look forward to getting to know more about you and your need for more platonic touch.
About the sessions
How do we get started?
First, I'll ask you how you are and what you're looking for in the session.
Then we'll come to an agreement to respect each other's boundaries and communicate honestly. (These are skills that can take time to build, and touch therapy sessions are a great way to practise!)
With this in place, everything that happens in the session should feel comfortable and sustainable for both of us - and if it doesn't, we speak up as soon as we realise, and we change things around.
The idea is for you to feel safe, grounded and free to invite the kinds of platonic touch and connection that feel most rewarding to you.
Then what happens?
There are lots of platonic touch options for you to choose from. They include hand-holding, sitting side by side or back to back, hugging, cuddling, cradling, spooning, and pretty much anything else platonic that we're both comfortable with on the day. (For details of some limits on what we can do, please see the code of conduct.)
While we're doing that, we can chat, put some music on or share friendly silence - whatever you prefer.
Equally, you might choose to spend some or all of your session not in physical contact but talking through any barriers you face to experiencing platonic touch, and ways to access more touch in your everyday life (or in future sessions with me).
Touch, and talking about touch, can sometimes bring on an emotional release, especially if it's been a while. So please know that laughing and crying in a cuddle session are both fine!
Bring your true self - that's who I want to meet.
About me
I started this work after experiencing both trauma and touch deprivation myself, so I know how it feels to find my way back to safe, joyful platonic touch, and how much better my life is with it than without.
I’ve trained in platonic touch therapy with UK and US bodies, and I continue my learning because there are as many ways to experience cuddle sessions as there are people who show up for them.
In the past I’ve also trained in essential counselling skills, nonviolent communication and ecopsychology, and my interests include community activism, improv, creative writing and being in nature. The windswept picture below was taken at the top of Snowdon! (But don't be too impressed - I got the train up...)
